Search For Significance: By Robert McGee

9/30/15
 
Search For Significance: By Robert McGee

A Universal Lie:
Performance + Opinions of Others= Self-Worth

#1 The Performance Trap

        ⁃       Symptoms
        ⁃       “I must meet certain standards to feel good about myself.”
        ⁃       Fear of failure
        ⁃       Perfectionism
        ⁃       Manipulating others to achieve success
        ⁃       Not trying, because of fear of failure.

        ⁃       God’s Remedy
        ⁃       God’s Justification
        ⁃       Romans 5:1

#2 The Approval Addict

        ⁃       Symptoms
        ⁃       “I must be approved by certain others to feel good about myself”
        ⁃       Fears rejection
        ⁃       Over Sensitize to criticism
        ⁃       Withdraw from others to avoid disapproval

        ⁃       God’s Remedy
        ⁃       Reconciliation
        ⁃       Colossians 1:21-22
        ⁃       “Totally accepted by God” 2 Cor. 5:17-21

#3 The Blame Game

        ⁃       Symptoms
        ⁃       “Those who fail (including myself) are unworthy of those of love and deserved to be punished”
        ⁃       Fear punishment
        ⁃       Try to punish others
        ⁃       Genesis 3 (Lies)
        ⁃       Their drive is to avoid failure/punishment

        ⁃       God’s Remedy
        ⁃       Propitiation
        ⁃       Romans 3:25-ff
        ⁃       1 John 2:2
        ⁃       1 John 4:9-10

#4 Shame

        ⁃       Symptoms
        ⁃       “I am what I am. I cannot change. I am hopeless.”
        ⁃       Feelings of hopelessness
        ⁃       Inferiority
        ⁃       Passivity
        ⁃       Loss of creativity
        ⁃       Isolation
        ⁃       Withdraw from others.

        ⁃       God’s Remedy
        ⁃       Regeneration
        ⁃       John 3:1-7, 16